Saturday, August 29, 2009
Friday, August 28, 2009
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
We have started the education piece of the process now, receiving information about adoption, education modules, we have homework assignments - watching some videos that talk about issues that adopted children often deal with. It's interesting and eye-opening. I'm glad that this is part of the requirement to adopt.
One of the videos we watched was interviews with young adults who were adopted. One of them talked about how she always felt like she was her parents' second choice (first choice would have been a biological child). Her parents didn't act that way, but she "felt" like that was the case. That really touched my heart. Mark and I talked about how we might approach this situation and here's what we came up with. Our first choice is to have a child. Biological vs adopted - doesn't matter. We want to have the child/children that God intended for us to have. There is no second choice with Him. The child He brings to our family will be the FIRST choice, loved and nurtured, perhaps treasured (not spoiled rotten!) even more because we know that he or she was chosen by God Himself. I hope and pray that our child is able to trust and believe that in their heart.
Thursday, August 20, 2009
#1 - Long phone conversations with old friends (no, I am NOT insinuating that my friends are old, just that my friendship with each of them is long standing)- This week, I was able to catch up with 2 very special friends that I haven't talked to in a while - Kari and Lynn. I've mentioned Kari before on Fabulous Friend Friday, she and I have known each other for almost 30 years. Lynn and I met over 20 years ago in New York - over that time, we have developed a deep bond and lasting friendship. Time passes so quickly when I am visiting with them. We can gab for hours and it feels like minutes. Catching up on each other's lives was a special gift to me this week!
#2 - Our home - One of these days, I will have to post some pictures of our house. Mark lost his house in a garage fire and was in the process of rebuilding when we met. So, I was able to move into a new home. It's a small comfortable house, we have a wonderful family room as well as a master bedroom with great walk-in closet (which will hopefully find a crib and changing table in it one of these days). I think one of the best things about our place is how comforting and relaxing it is to come home to at the end of the day.
#3 - Precious children waiting for adoption - And of course, those who make adoption possible. Mark and I are looking forward to finding the child that is waiting for us. God knows where our child is and I trust that He will show us when His timing is right. Recently, my friend Sarah posted a link on her blog to a story of God's wonderful faithfulness and a family who is returning that faithfulness to Him by "passing it forward." Click here to read more, I hope that you will be as touched by it as I was.
What are you thankful for today?
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
I finished up summer classes the first week of August and it was a relief to have finals out of the way before heading to Canada. We stopped at our cabin along the way to welcome my friend Jo, her hubby Tony, and son Zach who used that as their home base for a north shore vacation. Then, on to Sioux Narrows, Ontario. Below is a picture Mark's parents' summer home on Lake of the Woods where we spent 4 relaxing days.
Mark's dad took us out fishing several times. Although I really enjoy fishing, I admit I am a wimp when it comes to the process. Mark is nice enough to bait my hook and take my fish off the hook for me. We were able to bring home our limit of walleye, 1 Northern, and 1 Lake Trout.
Thanks Mert and Joanne for a nice vacation! We enjoyed spending time with you.
Last Friday, our social worker Becky came for our "home visit" - see the neighborhood, our house, yard, etc. It sounds like lots of people get very nervous about this, but it wasn't stressful for us. We feel comfortable with Becky and understand the rationale for this part of our home study. One step closer to completion - yay! We now start the education piece of the process, learning more about adoption and related issues.
On Saturday, Mark went 4-wheeling with friends Tim, Brad, and Brad's son Cody - they had a great time, although Mark's cell phone ended up at the bottom of a mud puddle (I use that term lightly - bog is probably more appropriate). Betsy (Mark's sister), Tim, Gavin (Betsy's son), and John (Tim's son) spent Saturday night with us before leaving for Indiana Sunday morning. While they are gone, we are dog-sitting for Regis a.k.a. Dryfus. Meechie doesn't mind one bit, Vivien is not quite as tolerant. Luckily, Regis is a very laid back dog!
I've had a break from clinicals with everything that's been going on, but was back in Fairmont yesterday and today. I was feeling a little "rusty" but it's good to be learning and doing again. This morning, the daughter of one of the patients gave me a sweet compliment, that I will make a "great nurse practitioner." Hearing feedback like that makes it a little bit easier to keep going on the days when I really just want to be a "normal" person again and not feel like I am running in 20 different directions. I enjoy the patients and know that as I continue to develop my skills, I can make a difference in people's lives. That is important to me. Classes resumed today so I am off and running again. Graduation is only 262 days away (not that I am counting - lol)!
Monday, August 17, 2009
Saturday I went 4-wheeling with Brad Strain, his son and Tim (my sisters boyfriend) I lost my cell phone in a big mud hole along with a lot of phone numbers.
Sunday we went to see the Roth family (Melanie's mom & dad) and their guests from France.
well I am on my way to get a new phone
Friday, August 14, 2009
Friday, August 7, 2009
We had the opportunity to spend a few hours with Mark's grandma this afternoon and wish her HAPPY 98th BIRTHDAY!! It is always fun to visit and enjoy her stories.
Finished finals on Tuesday so I'm looking forward to a short break before starting fall semester on the 17th.
Have a great weekend everyone!
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Surprisingly enough, I'm not. As I have said before, God knows the big picture. What I think and want to happen might be very different from His plan for Mark and me. That makes it easier to wait. Today, I had finals for my summer classes. It occurred to me that in spite of the stress and chaos I have because of school, it really is a GOOD thing! I'm able to focus on the task at hand which is getting through each class, completing as many clinical hours as possible, and knowing that each day brings me closer to graduation. Although "finding" our child is on my mind, it does not occupy my every waking moment. I'm able to trust that when God's timing is right, we will become parents.
Isn't it great knowing that someone else is in charge??
Monday, August 3, 2009
Anyway, sometimes others see us differently than we see ourselves so I'm curious to hear why you think we would be good adoptive parents. Those of you who are out there reading our blog - surprise me!! If you aren't comfortable responding publicly - click on our email link above to share a private thought. After we get our list compiled, I will share it here with everyone.
Sunday, August 2, 2009
It's been a busy couple of days. I flew home from Birmingham on Friday morning. After a few delays in Detroit, I arrived in Rochester at about 3pm. Mark had the trailer loaded, we threw a few things in the car, and were on our way to the cabin by 4:30pm.
Mark spent most of the weekend mowing - as you can see by the picture below we had a veritable jungle in some areas. I am amazed how how quickly the trees and vegetation grow. When we bought the land 3 years ago, most of it had been cleared by bulldozer. We were able to ride our 4-wheelers on it. Now, regrowth is probably about 7 feet high, no riding the 4-wheelers through that forest! We try to keep the area around the cabin fairly clear, as you can see by the picture below (after Mark's mowing).
It was nice to get away even though it was a working weekend. A friend of mine and her family are planning to use the cabin next week as a base for their vacation so we were trying to get a couple things done before they arrive.
We had water in the RV holding tank and Mark got the water heater working so I actually got to take a hot shower - YAY!! That was wonderful!
Only bummer to coming home tonight was that I have a full week's worth of laundry to catch up on. Thank goodness for a large capacity washing machine.
Progress continues on our home study. We have to reschedule tomorrow morning's meeting with our social worker due to Mark's required DOT physical. More paperwork to complete and it is time to start working on our "Dear Birth Mom" letter and portfolio. The letter will be posted on our agency's website along with a picture of us. The portfolio is shared with birth parents who may be considering us to adopt their child. I've asked my mom to help with putting that together because of her experience in graphic arts and design. She will be much more creative than Mark or I could hope to be!!
Hope you all had a wonderful weekend.